Lust

For this week, I read "Lust", "Even the Queen", "A Good Man is Hard to Find," and "Where are You Going; Where Have You Been." The one I enjoyed most was "Lust," because I related with the narrator. I was pleasantly surprised by the fact that she didn't care that she had sex with a large number of guys. In fact, she owned it. She went through each guy and told us what she did with them. It was great.

The part that resonated with me was when she said that a boy's better when he's had more girls. Meanwhile, for the girl, it's like a petal gets plucked every time. I agree with this. A pastor named Mark Gungor said that men tend to imprint upon the early sexual experiences they have. Yet, women imprint on what happens after the sex. Usually, nothing happens which is why they feel empty every time. This is the link for his lecture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BzOp1VkqPbI

This is the link for his lecture on the difference between men's and women's brains. It's also very good: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XjUFYxSxDk

The media teaches us that guys are supposed to sleep around as much as possible with as little attachment as possible. All the male action heroes do it. Meanwhile, the girls are supposed to wait for that one prince charming. Every Disney princess movie in existence teaches you that. It kind of makes you wonder who the guys are supposed to be sleeping with then.

This double standard confuses girls today. They have the same sexual desires but they feel dirty if they pursue them. Society considers them as sluts. Mark Gungor says the solution is for everyone to get married really early so they can have sex all the time. I don't know about that but I think that the media needs to stop treating female sexuality as something evil. I'm glad that the narrator in "Lust" perceives hers as something normal.